Vanessa Bryant is sharing her expertise with grief — and a few encouraging phrases for many who is perhaps going via comparable feelings.On her Instagram Stories Friday, Vanessa, 38, stated that “grief is a messed up cluster of emotions.””One day you’re in the moment laughing and the next day you don’t feel like being alive,” she wrote. “I want to say this for people struggling with grief and heartbreaking loss. Find your reason to live. I know it’s hard.”Vanessa shared that it is her kids who assist give her purpose: “I look at my daughters and I try to push through that feeling for them.”RELATED: Kobe Bryant’s Daughter Natalia Injures Finger During Ski Trip: ‘Payback for Making Fun’ of Dad”Death is guaranteed but living the rest of the day isn’t,” she concluded. “Find your reason.”Vanessa’s husband, basketball legend Kobe Bryant, 41, and their daughter Gianna, 13, had been killed in a helicopter crash alongside seven others on the best way to a basketball event. January 26 will mark the one-year anniversary of the crash.Never miss a narrative — join PEOPLE’s free every day e-newsletter to remain up-to-date on the most effective of what PEOPLE has to supply, from juicy movie star information to forcing human curiosity tales.Just a number of weeks in the past, Vanessa marked the household’s first Christmas since Kobe and Gianna died.”Always Together, Never Apart Together Forever In Our Hearts,” Vanessa wrote within the caption for an Instagram photograph that includes your complete household. Vanessa and Kobe additionally share daughters Natalia, 17, Bianka, 4, and Capri, 1.Vanessa just lately took her ladies on a post-holiday ski journey along with her buddy Ciara, who introduced alongside her youngsters Future, 6, and Sienna, 3.RELATED: Ciara Goes Skiing for the First Time with Pal Vanessa Bryant: ‘The Slopes Ain’t Ready’Story continuesNatalia sprained her finger and wrist on the journey, which Vanessa joked was “payback” for making enjoyable of her dad.In August, Vanessa shared an emotional tribute to Kobe on what would have been his 42nd birthday.”I miss your big hugs, your kisses, your smile, your loud ass deep laugh. I miss teasing you, making you laugh and bursting your bubble,” she wrote in a part of the tribute. “I miss you sitting on my lap like my big baby that you are. I think about your tenderness and patience all the time.”Contributions to the Mamba & Mambacita Sports Foundation will assist help youth sports activities.